Limerence Consulting

Nicole Matusow, LCSW

Limerence Consulting

I'm a psychoanalytically-trained psychotherapist who specializes in limerence. I offer consulting to help you better understand both the conscious and unconscious mechanisms that make you vulnerable to limerence.

Whether you're just discovering that your obsession with a particular person in your life has a name, or you're already familiar with the term limerence but struggling to find a therapist who understands it, I can help. Through consulting sessions, I provide the language, insights, and strategies you need to cope with limerence and its impact on your psyche. Left unexamined, the compulsion to repeat limerence will be irresistible.

What Consulting Is (and Isn't)

I offer a personalized understanding of your specific limerence patterns, helping you learn to recognize the early signs and derail limerence before it derails you. This isn't therapy, but rather focused guidance to help you make sense of and manage the ruminations, the fantasies, and the heartache.

Your race, ethnicity, culture, sexual orientation, gender identity/expression/fluidity, and spirituality are all valued and respected here.

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Podcast

Have You Ever Been Obsessively in Love?

Listen to The Intense Mind Podcast with Imi Lo to explore how unconscious mechanisms drive limerence — from the early attachment patterns that set the stage, to the role of fantasy and emotional regulation, to what we can actually do about it.

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Articles on Limerence

Written by Nicole Matusow, LCSW

Feb 2025

Limerence Consulting

Limerence Consulting

What Consulting Is (and Isn't)

Have You Ever Been Obsessively in Love?

Articles on Limerence

Limerence and the Repetition Compulsion

How Your Limerence is Fueled by Shame and Self-Abandonment

Limerence: A Psychic Retreat

Exploring the Origins of Limerence as Self-Soothing

Limerence and Splitting

Limerence as a Resistance to Intimacy

Limerence: The Agony and the Ecstasy of Our Earliest Addiction